I want to sport hair like Sikh man but mother insists on briad

I am posting after 11 days. After my date with Japtej Kaur on 5th Feb 18; I went home and I was sad to find my mother upset with my attire of Sikh man.

She is suggesting me to sport hair bun at least like a woman at nape and not on top of head like a Sikh man.

I am trying to convince her that hair bun on top of head is a convenient hairdo for me because I go to office and I can cover hair under my patka

Also, my hairdo resembles Lord Shiva. I have taken vow not to cut hair for spiritual reasons.

So, let me be myself.

But mothers being mothers very kind at heart and too much attached, don't get convinced.

She kept on telling that I miss my daughter and when you sort hair like a woman, I don't miss her.

She removed patka from my head and opened topknot. My waist length hair cascaded straight from head on my face.

Mother observed that patka cloth has soaked all hair oil which she applied in the morning.

She wanted to oil my hair again and make a nice braid.

So, again she applied hair oil and brushed back my hair and neatly combed them. Then she tied hair in a nice braid (Choti)

She made 28 knots in braid. 27 knots are 28 lunar mansions(Nakshatras)as per Hindu mythology. 28 knots of a braid bring good luck.

After making braid, she was satisfied and she told me not to open braid anymore.

Next day morning, I sported a braided bun of hair and went to office. Mother is happy.

Boss is not happy. He suggested, you better sport patka like a Sikh man. I asked him to excuse me for the day.

Next day I carried patka cloth with me to office and sported patka in men's change room.

But when I go home and open my waist length hair and look in mirror, I get immense pleasure. It's an investment. With regular oiling and taking care, I got wonderful hair. It's god's gift. I can manage challenges associated to it.