I am Tamil man - Why I sport hair like a Sikh?

Why I sport my hair in a bun on top of my head. I work in a office and this hairstyle is very convinient to hold long hair. I wrap cloth on my hair in cloth like Sikh boy. So it protects hair from dust and pollution.
When my hair length was upto shoulder, I used to sport them in a ponytail or a bun. But the bun size is very large and if I sport braid, it crosses my mid back. Long CHOTI.
Also, I respect Sikh Religion a lot! I wish I would have taken birth as a Sikh, so I could have grown hair since my childhood and entire family would be sporting long hair irrespective of gender and it would have been fun indeed to oil and comb each others hair.
It's a great respect to god the almighty. "Wahe Guru"
Probably my deep respect for Sikh relligion has bestowed upon me a Sikh friend.
I style like a woman. I do it while at home.
So my long hair gives me an opportunity to be like a man and a woman. I am indeed thankful to god the almighty for my long hair.

My Sikh friend - Japtej Kaur encourages me to be like a Sikh man

Last 2 months, I had abnormal hair growth and now my hair touch waist. Almost 5 centimetre growth in 2 months.
My Sikh friend Japtej Kaur is in regular touch and she encourages me to be like a Sikh man all the time.
But my mother wants me to be like a girl at least at home.
Today, being Sunday, I washed hair with shampoo and conditioned it.
Mother asked me to shave.
So, I got to know about her intentions. After drying hair, she grabbed Parachute coconut oil bottle and asked me to sit on floor. She poured handful of oil on my scalp and started patting on scalp. Then she evenly applied oil on my head and then on strands. Each hair strand was coated with coconut oil. Then she took a fine-tooth comb and brushed my hair backword. She was combing with gentle strokes. I stood and she was standing behind me neatly combing hair. Finally, she started making braid. She made a nice tight braid of hair. She asked me to wear my sister’s clothes. I sported Salwar Khamis and applied bindi on my forehead. Mother was very happy to see me in a woman's attire. Whole day, I lived like a girl.
In the evening, Japtej Kaur called me and asked me if we can meet. So, I had to change my attire. I sported my normal man's cloths and I thought I will sport hair like a Sikh man. So, I opened my braid and combed hair forward and made a tight bun of hair on top of my head and then sported a patka. My mother was unhappy. She doesn't like a Tamil family boy becoming Sikh.
I met Japtej Kaur in the garden. She had sported a braided bun of her beautiful hair, well oiled. I smelled her hair she had applied Dabur Amla hair oil.
I shared with her my dilemma of living dual personality. She laughed and said, it’s good that you have long hair like girls so that you can fulfil wish of both mother and girlfriend.

I want to sport hair like Sikh man but mother insists on briad

I am posting after 11 days. After my date with Japtej Kaur on 5th Feb 18; I went home and I was sad to find my mother upset with my attire of Sikh man.

She is suggesting me to sport hair bun at least like a woman at nape and not on top of head like a Sikh man.

I am trying to convince her that hair bun on top of head is a convenient hairdo for me because I go to office and I can cover hair under my patka

Also, my hairdo resembles Lord Shiva. I have taken vow not to cut hair for spiritual reasons.

So, let me be myself.

But mothers being mothers very kind at heart and too much attached, don't get convinced.

She kept on telling that I miss my daughter and when you sort hair like a woman, I don't miss her.

She removed patka from my head and opened topknot. My waist length hair cascaded straight from head on my face.

Mother observed that patka cloth has soaked all hair oil which she applied in the morning.

She wanted to oil my hair again and make a nice braid.

So, again she applied hair oil and brushed back my hair and neatly combed them. Then she tied hair in a nice braid (Choti)

She made 28 knots in braid. 27 knots are 28 lunar mansions(Nakshatras)as per Hindu mythology. 28 knots of a braid bring good luck.

After making braid, she was satisfied and she told me not to open braid anymore.

Next day morning, I sported a braided bun of hair and went to office. Mother is happy.

Boss is not happy. He suggested, you better sport patka like a Sikh man. I asked him to excuse me for the day.

Next day I carried patka cloth with me to office and sported patka in men's change room.

But when I go home and open my waist length hair and look in mirror, I get immense pleasure. It's an investment. With regular oiling and taking care, I got wonderful hair. It's god's gift. I can manage challenges associated to it.